At what point do you give up on any given course? I've come to the temporary conclusion that there is no set answer to this. You have to weigh the concequesnces with the pain and trouble the course is causing you, of course, that's a given but how do you know when the pain is no longer worth it?
For most things I have come to learn that if you can push past that point where you are certain you must give up because it's just too hard, you will succeed. If you can just get past that crucial point, past that ultimate test. It's like you have proven you are tougher than whatever life has thrown your way and you win.
What happens when you have pushed, and fought and spent WAY too long sitting in the middle of that point where the obstacles seem insurmountable? Do you keep going? Do you give up and admit defeat? Once you give up there is no going back, are you ready for that? Are you prepared to take another path entirely?
What if you are being a wimp? I constantly think that others must endure much more pain than I do so what I am complaining about? What if I am submitting myself to much more pain than is normal? How do you know and compare these things? When does it turn from bravery to stupidity?
I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about work, dreams, life goals, weight loss, etc. Whatever it is, is doesn't matter. The point is when do you move on?
Or are you the type of person who just rolls with it and takes any obstacle as a sign to take up another course of action? You can probably tell by now that I am not this type of person. I can't help but wonder that if I were would I be more sane or maybe more insane because I couldn't just pick and path and stick with it.
Just food for thought I guess...
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I've put up with more in marriage then in any other area of my life. In some ways, this has been a good lesson for me--helped me mature a bit.
Until recently, if I did not like someone or something,then I would say 'fuck it' and cut them off at the knees never to look back, quit jobs, etc.
Anyway I still think it should be case-by case. Because my marriage succeeding effects more than me--read Max--I'm likewise more committed to making it work than I would a job or a friendship.
Like Karrie my marriage is where I fought the hardest. I failed but by god did I ever fight hard. Well I didnt fail I just couldnt fight a 1 sided ass kicking contest anymore. Fight for what you want and there will come a time when you either know you reached your goal or you will be content with calling it quits. Not saying either task at hand is easy and each has its own struggles to deal with but if you dont fight with all you have you will regret it forever.
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